This article raises some questions about the way society has glorified education. No longer will an education guarantee and job.
Hilary Rosen’s criticism of Ann Romney this week brings to light once again the tension felt between working moms and stay at home moms. Rosen condescendingly told Romney that she didn’t have a right to consult her husband on the state of the economy because she, hasn’t worked a day in her life. Rosen’s comments have sparked a debate that included the First Lady’s twitter comments in support of all mothers and their choices.
As a working mother who has transitioned to a stay at home mom, I very clearly understand the plight of both. Many young mothers don’t have the option to stay at home to care for their kids. A dual income is sometimes absolutely necessary to just make ends meet. Many other women do have the option to stay at home and raise their children. These choices are private and are often not made without serious and prayerful consideration and discussion between family members and even close friends.
Both working moms and stay at home moms both often have internal struggles with their roles. Working mothers face internal guilt with negative messages coming from all aspects of society. Many stay at home moms have internal fears and guilt as well.
No matter where you are working, being a mother is not an easy job. With only so much time in the day, mothers are always working regardless. To think that a mother who “works at home” or “works outside of the home” makes a woman more intelligent, aware or not, is an incredibly naive notion.
We all have to make tough choices throughout our lives. Some choices are made for us. Some choices are right for our lives at the time, and some are not. It is these choices that makes us unique and formulate the path that we choose for our lives.
Embracing motherhood and being the best mother you can be no matter what your ‘working’ status is the real message. Some of us have had the opportunity to be both. Some of us have had to be working mom and working dad. Regardless, of your situation, we all work hard and we all want credit for the work we do, no matter what.
As a mom in “transition” I find myself constantly in a state of flux. Change seems to be the theme and rolling with that change means never being quite settled. I am one of millions of the jobless in this country that are transitioning between being employed to unemployed and hopefully employed once again. This period has been full of fear and a whole lot of uncertainty.
With millions of jobs simply gone, what does it mean for those who have spent years on a seemingly obvious career path? What is the future for those who can not break back into their previous careers?
Many have turned to entrepreneurship, and many others still diligently search for a way back into their previous career. Thousands have returned to school to pick up where they left off, finishing bachelor’s degrees, attending trade schools and going for advanced degrees in an effort to make themselves that much more marketable than that next guy.
I’ve met countless Real Estate, Mortgage and Finance professionals who have moved on to gain Insurance licenses, an industry that has been dubbed “recession-proof”. Sales, Marketing and Public Relations professionals have reinvented themselves as consultants, teachers and writers.
So many seek to reinvent themselves in order to find a new niche to make their own. Utilizing business savvy, education and pure instinct, they seek new ways of generating income and building lost self esteem.
This period of transition has not only taken me through the cycle of mourning my lost career, income and health insurance, but it has also lead me to question the entire direction my life is headed in.
As I continue through my transition toward places unknown, there are some things that I have been able to welcome through my transition from working professional to unemployed stay-at-home mom. In the coming weeks I will chronicle the wanted and unwanted along with the tough choices and the hidden blessings of this transition called unemployment.